“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth” – Mike Tyson
All too often, I have seen the experts and coaches out there throw out theories about what could work versus what couldn’t. I see this all too often with dating when guys theorize what women want versus what they don’t. The reason I know this is troublesome is because I used to be that very guy who would theorize his way through life than actually living and learning from experience. After years of going out, talking to women, and getting laid; I’ve felt confident enough to start this blog. The same I have found is true for my career and what I do as well as having made big life moves.
You’ll think you know it all until experience comes in and makes you question everything you know.
You may think you know all there is to know about social interactions until you talk to a girl in public and realize how weird it sounds. The strangers who can’t mind their own business just waiting for you to strike out so they feel better about their lives is an experience and feeling the readings and videos don’t prepare you for. No matter how they put it, nothing can prepare you for that sting of rejection you get after she does the classic hair flip or snubs you openly in front of everyone. You think you know what kinds of guys get girls until you walk into a bar and see a slob dressed like a loser making out with the same hot girl you think would be getting fucked by James Bond. Now you think you may be ready to take a girl home after reading pickup lines until you realize it is all about pulling the trigger at the right time and going for the close.
Here is why I rarely listen to the “experts” and “gurus” out there.
“Those who can, do; those who can’t, teach”
Can’t say I know who exactly came up with that quote, even Google doesn’t know.
You have experts popping up everywhere in the internet age claiming to know all of the answers, some I assume are genuinely good people, but they do not know shit. The truth about these experts is that they are years removed from actively being in the very thing they talk about or they never really had that much success in the first place. For the most part it is easier to talk about something than actually do it. Even in the phase of life I am at right now, I am a far-cry from the days when I would take home 3 different girls a week. Even I am open to the idea that all of what I say can easily be questioned and debated because dating constantly evolves.
Once you get into it, you realize how much of it is making order out of chaos.
Life is not scripted, it is a fucking mess that you improvise on. The reason experience is so important is that the answers are rarely straightforward, this is where experience comes in, you know the various ways you can address the unique problems. A guy who has gone out enough can handle a cockblocking friend a lot better than a guy who has just read about it, because not all cockblocking friends are the same. All of the success comes from one thing only, experience!
So if I am being impartial, doesn’t it mean this blog is full of crap?
I’ll be the first to admit that this blog is not perfect, I am in my twenties after all and barely know much about life outside of that age group. To ask me about retirement savings, having kids, and being a dad would be idiotic. Even with my posts about NYC nightlife and dating, there is so much more I have yet to learn so you are reading the posts of someone getting on the job experience.
Speaking of experience though, it is time for you to get started!
