Ever since 2020 and the start of the pandemic, times have been tough and that is an understatement. We are dealing with inflation, massive lay-offs, and a potential recession on the horizon. Political divisions keep getting worse and it seems like every year, society is falling apart.
It’s different from the times a lot of us were used to as well as the early times of when pickup became popular.
Social media was slowly rising but had not become as encompassing as it has right now. When we look back to the times of say a Mystery (Pickup Artist), we can say that things are certainly a lot more different now socially, culturally, and politically. A lot of Pickup Artists have just been flat out cancelled.
For a lack of a better word, it is just a lot harder to meet women compared to decades ago. When “cold approach” was still the new thing, meeting women was quite easy. Now, the game has become more difficult.
And it probably won’t get any easier.
I won’t be surprised if meeting women and game in general continue to get more and more difficult in the coming years. A part of me believes that whatever is going on in society as a whole, it is going to get a lot worse before it even starts to get better. As much as I hate to admit it, it was probably a lot easier to meet women before 2012 than after it. In 2012, the dating apps had just come out and were not flooded with robots like they are now. “Daygame” and “nightgame” were niche and women were not as used to getting approached.
Imagine if you had started then.
Imagine if say in 2008, you decided that you were going to hit the gym, look good, have a better mindset, approach a lot of women, progressively improve your game, and try to live a cool life. I’d say that if you started and were serious about your journey, in about a year or two, you’d have hooked up with more than your fair share of good looking women. After a year, you’d have your rotation of good looking fuckbuddies and you would have had all the fun in the world. A decade later? You’d probably have to try a lot harder to achieve the same result.
After all, 2008 was still before the whole MeToo movement, Cancel Culture, and society coming down on sleazy PUAs. 2008 was also before the dating apps really took off and most dating sites back then were, for the most part, legit enough and not flooded with robots. Even social media had not become as encompassing as it has right now.
Yet, even then, a lot of guys made excuses.
While they might not have had the community, even then you had a lot of “incels”. Even then, you had a lot of guys with a Victim’s Mentality who complained about how bad society was. Even back in those days, you had men talking about how women are all over MySpace and how society is becoming “immoral” compared to the good ole days when people would marry at 21. No matter how much easier it may have been, you had the very same guys who made excuses and didn’t even bother. Needless to say, these guys didn’t get results.
Which brings me back to the main point of this entire post.
If you are worried about the direction society is heading in and what it means for you as a guy, I’d strongly advise you to treat getting good with women with some urgency. Try to get as fit as you can and lay off the Potato Chips, try to approach women in a socially calibrated and respectful way instead of posting on depressing internet forums, and try to hit the bars at night and make your approaches. When you get rejected, brush it off and keep on trucking.
Because chances are if you think that shit is tough now, it’s probably going to get a lot tougher. If you think that the world is a shitshow right now? Well, there is always a chance that the shitshow can get a lot worse in the coming years. I’d start acting with some urgency around game and getting good with women because who knows how long you have before opportunities just start to disappear.
If you think things are awful now with all is going on? Imagine how they might be like in 10 or even 20 years! If I was you, I’d start taking as much action to get good as possible and start putting perspective on what really matters. Arguing on internet forums/Discord groups, overthinking everything, and mentally masturbating are going to end up being a lot more costly in the long-turn than you may think.
I bet right now that a lot of guys who were coming of age in 2010, knew about game, but decided to waste their time making excuses are kicking themselves right now. Most of these guys cannot even start to imagine how much better their lives would have been if they simply hit the gym, ate right, approached, and had a better mindset. A few of them would have more than had their fun and put their priorities elsewhere during the lockdowns.
Now I know as a guy coming of age in 2020 onwards, it can be easy to envy your brothers from a decade ago who had it easier. Well, let me tell you that you are going to be kicking yourself decades later if society hits a Mad Max type of scenario. I hope it doesn’t happen and we end up saving ourselves but even if it did, you at least hope you have some great memories to look back on.
There is no better day to make your dream life happen than right now.